The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22 (NLT).
Smiling brides and grooms approach the marriage altar thrilled to have found a priceless treasure in each other. The glimmer of new rings can’t compare with the glow of new love.
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Treasure Your Gift
It’s important to remember—especially when we feel frustrated or disappointed—that marriage is a gift from God. Your mate is a treasure. You are valuable to each other. Not only do you support and strengthen one another, but you also sharpen each other.
Proverbs 27:17 (NLT) says, “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” When sparks fly, we need to remember God is using our partner to polish us.
Hebrews 12:11 says God uses difficulties to train us so we can enjoy the peaceful fruit of righteousness.
How would viewing your marriage as a sacred gift help you navigate the trying aspects of it?
Learn to Dance
Beautiful ballroom dancers move as one. The process of becoming one in marriage forces us to face our selfish sides in ways we never had to as singles. It’s no longer about what is best for me or even what is best for my mate, but what is best for us.
When I had roommates, I had my stuff and my roommate had hers. I decided how to use and care for my stuff. But when I married, my stuff became our stuff. And my husband didn’t always have the same regard on how to treat my our stuff!
With a roommate, I could go to my own room when I needed space. When I married, my room was also his room. When I was single, I chose my own schedule without having to check in with anyone. After marriage, I needed to coordinate with him before committing myself.
In marriage, God uses our differences to shape us into the image of His Son. Our human nature resists this refinement. But God is teaching us to dance in the power of His Spirit. He uses our “treasure” to enhance our beauty.
Secure Your Friendship
Secure your marriage by protecting and deepening your friendship with each other after marriage. Pull for each other and remember you and your spouse are on the same team. Date after marriage. If God grants children, carve out one-on-one time. Don’t let your children become the hub of your relationship.
Friendship is worth scheduling. Spend time daily connecting eye to eye and sharing loads and laughs. Take walks, play, pray, and do something you both like. Don’t let the demands of life steal closeness.
It’s normal for feelings to fluctuate. But solid marriages aren’t erected on fickle feelings. As we build our relationships in Christ’s power on the foundation of truth, we discover marriage to be a greenhouse for security, satisfaction, and sanctification.
Two are better than one….Though one person may be overpowered by another, two people can resist one opponent. A triple-braided rope is not easily broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:9, 12 GW).
Lighthouse Ministries is here to help you keep the sparkle in your relationships. For relationship coaching or counseling contact Larry at 919 469-2477.