Are you being double-minded over something? A couple told me about the plans for their daughter’s upcoming wedding. The wife was obviously enjoying the preparation and dreaming required to create this wonderful event. The husband—not so much. You want to guess what he brought up? The cost.
The husband wanted to make his wife and daughter happy, but he fretted about the expense. His worries poisoned his joy.
How many times have I done that? Something cost more time, energy, or money than I’d anticipated, and I let my concerns steal my peace and joy. I felt resentment instead of gratitude for the opportunity.
This can happen in small ways. We agree to help a child with a project, and it takes more time than we thought. What began as an investment in our child turns into frustration over what we feel we’re giving up. And our child senses it.
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How to Be Single-Minded
A trial is anything that tests us. How we respond when a situation taxes our purse, tries our patience, or strains a relationship reveals our mode of operation. Are we walking by faith or by fear? In the Spirit or in the flesh? We need wisdom when distractions pull us in different directions.
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do” (James 1:5-8 NIV).
Use the acronym AWE to laser focus.
Let’s use planning a wedding as an example. If the husband and wife want to fulfill their daughter’s wishes and keep harmony between themselves, the best place to start is to ask God for wisdom. All those affected, individually and together, should ask Him for wisdom on how to proceed with the confidence He’ll answer.
After listening for the Lord’s leading, they can share their ideas with each other. It’s not a matter of what the daughter wants, what the wife wants, or what the husband wants. It is about what’s best for the whole.
Jesus said we can’t serve two masters (Matt. 6:24). He must be first. But what do we do if not everyone wants God’s will?
We are responsible for ourselves. We must set aside the desire to please people, even those we love, to please the Lord (Gal. 1:10). No one ever regrets following His will. But we always regret not obeying Him. He sees the future. We can trust Him to lead us to the best decision.
Ask Him for wisdom on how to handle differences of opinions. Working through our different perspectives can bring us together in God’s perfect will.
Walk by Faith.
Once you sense God’s leading, enjoy the process of walking with the Lord and each other. If you decide to pay for the big wedding, the money is gone whether you choose to enjoy the activity or not. If you say yes to a commitment, trust God to be with you as you fulfill it. Don’t waver in doubt over whether you made the right decision. You asked God to lead you. Trust that He is and let it go (Psalm 23:3).
If you lose your peace, go back to step one. Did your decision come from faith in God’s leading or from something else? A man plans his ways, but the Lord directs his steps (Pro. 16:9). If more information causes you to question you commitment, you may need to ask out of it (Pro. 6:2-3).
Double-mindedness drives us, and those around us, crazy. Single-minded trust in the Lord provides peace and stability. When we walk by faith, an awful mess can become an opportunity to experience our AWEsome God.
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