With Mothers Day approaching, I reached out to Julie Lavender. Besides being a wonderful model for mothers and grandmothers, Julie has two books I know you’ll want to check out. Following Julie’s inspiring ideas are some resources for parents of prodigals. Now Julie…
With Mothers Day around the corner, my thoughts wander to my four, now-adult children who’ve flown the coup to parts unknown. Well, that’s not completely true – one child lives upstairs temporarily until he finds an apartment close to his new job and, well, the location of the other three are known to me … just farther from my doorstep than I’d like.
Yet, they are all living the exact lives I prayed for them from the time they were born – walking with the Lord, accomplished the education goals they set for themselves, established in jobs they love, healthy, and full of joy. I’m grateful God gifted me with these four kiddos to raise and treasure.
Just last week, my sweet three-year-old grandson, a bundle of energy, hung out with me for ten days. I offered the visit with Benaiah as a gift to my daughter and her husband for her birthday. She turned thirty this year, and I wanted to make it a special time for her.
Actually – I let her husband do the birthday planning to make it special – I just supplied the caregiving for my grandtreasure!
Benaiah and I picked strawberries, trekked to every park in the county, toured the Wildlife Center on the University campus, colored on long strips of freezer paper, put together and played with train tracks, bopped balloons in the den, played soccer, caught toads, touched a turtle, called an owl, scooped sand, watched a National Geographic kids’ show about scuba divers because that’s his passion right now, and much more.
His parents rented a camper-converted-from-a-van and camped at two local, yet never-experienced parks in Chattanooga, got a couple’s massage, visited the zoo, worked around the home without a three-year-old’s assistance, and dined out frequently.
In other words, a good time was had by all! I would argue I had the most fun, but I hope my sweet grandson’s pleasure rated at the top of the scale, too.
I enjoy showing love to my children, even if those kiddos are adults now. Babysitting – though I’d much prefer to call it Camp Grandmommy – is one way I like to show love to my daughter and her husband.
Here are a few other ways I’ve found to express love to my adult kids.
- Sprucing up my bachelor son’s apartment when I visit.
- Baking their favorite childhood goodies to take when I go for a visit.
- Preparing and freezing casseroles to deliver when I visit.
- Mailing giftcards for their favorite restaurant to say, “I love you – take a break from cooking and treat yourself to dinner.”
- Sending greeting cards for no particular reason or occasion.
- Texting silly memes or messages in a family text.
- Boasting about them on social media.
- Buying inexpensive treats for random holidays or occasions, like Thanksgiving or Fourth of July or fall or last-day-of-school or new puppy or promotion at work.
- Helping with home or work projects, at their requests, like organizing the garage or reading over an important newsletter and offering suggestions or helping make classroom decorations for a new school year.
- Taking care of the bill when we go out to eat during visits.
- Making a point of attending church with them when we’re together.
- Prioritizing a phone call from them, if possible, by putting aside whatever I’m doing and truly listening to their conversation.
- Reminding them often that I love them!
- Praying DAILY for them (and letting them know that!).
With Mothers Day around the corner, the best “gift” I could ask for is just being mommy to my four amazing kids and two bonus sons-in-love.
What about you? What tips can you add to my list? I’d love some new suggestions for showing love to my adult kiddos!What about you? What tips can you add to my list? I’d love some new suggestions for showing love to my adult kiddos! @JLavenderwrites #MothersDay Click To Tweet
Julie Lavender loves showing love to her family with words and actions (especially if there’s cooking or baking involved) and special treats. She is the author of 365 Ways to Love Your Child: Turning Little Moments into Lasting Memories and Children’s Bible Stories for Bedtime. Her interview with Focus on the Family about showing love to children aired in January, and she’d be honored if you’d click https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ti_1-eOtcjA&t=981s to watch the video.
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