I know what it’s like to be hard on yourself. Maybe you do too. Today Larry offers insights and tips to help those of us who lean this way. Now here’s Larry…
Do you lack joy, faith, or energy? You might be among the many who are too hard on themselves. Yes, God wants us to be holy, blameless, and above reproach. Yet this comes from Him working in us according to His good pleasure.
When we put undue pressure on ourselves, we may step away from what He wants for us. Paul instructs us to think about the things that are excellent and worthy of praise (Phil. 4:8). Critical self-talk does not fit into this category.
Living by standards produces legalism which stunts our spiritual growth and creates hardship for those around us. If you’re hard on yourself, you may wonder how you can escape this bondage. Here are two suggestions.
Be careful what you listen to.
Critical voices, past or present, can stir bondage. Listen to what is constructive (Ephes. 4:29). Correction, yes. Critical faultfinding, no. Not feeling satisfied unless we meet certain standards may spring from a need to prove our worth to ourselves or others. God already established our worth at the cross.
Choose friendships carefully (Pro. 12:26).
People who don’t accept themselves may struggle to accept us. Paul told Timothy to invest in people who live the faith (2 Tim. 2:2). Spiritual maturity helps us grow in grace and be less critical of ourselves and others.
A person who continues to be hard on themselves may show hyper control in certain areas and lack control or overindulge in other areas. Living by the power of God’s Spirit produces the transformation that living by our standards never can.
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Resources—for those who tend to be hard on themselves
Seeing how God deals with His imperfect children helps me extend grace to myself in my shortcomings. Follow this link to three studies that will help you enjoy a Big God despite your limitations and circumstances.