My Sweet, Serving Valentine

by | Feb 12, 2024 | Love, Marriage | 28 comments

I’m delighted to have my friend and fellow author Dawn Wilson inspire us with thoughts on her Valentine this week. Also, I think you will enjoy her post on “Was Valentine’s Day Pagan or Christian?” Now here’s Dawn.

Love That Digs In to Serve

Bob has been the love of my life since I saw him in church. “He looks like Prince Philip!” I told a friend. That was five decades ago, and July, 2024, marks our 50th wedding anniversary.

In the early 1970s, I traveled with a revival ministry team as a singer and counselor. Local church families housed the team. I ended up in my future husband’s parents’ home. The following summer, Bob joined the team. We traveled thousands of miles together, encouraging church members to embrace a more biblical walk with God, and calling students to a relationship with Him.

For three years, I observed Bob’s character. His servanthood endeared me. When I developed a severe respiratory infection on the road and coughed for three weeks straight, I endured countless home remedies—including garlic hung in a bag around my neck! I coughed so hard that I developed pleurisy and doubled over in pain.

Throughout the ordeal, Bob became my tough-and-tender “Knight in Shining Armor.” He defended my need for rest when a team leader asked if I could “mouth the words” at my microphone. Even though he is a man of few words, Bob wrote me notes of encouragement. He carried my luggage and served me in innumerable ways. How could I resist loving such a man?

Love That Digs Deeper

We married in 1974 and soon returned to revival ministry where he continued to serve and protect me. I got ready for bed one night and heard someone clearing his throat. Our room was connected to another—which I assumed was a storeroom—by a swinging saloon-type door with widely-spaced slats. I peered over the low door and saw “Grandpa” looking at me in the dark. He had watched me undress! My valiant knight moved quickly to exit us from that situation.

After my diagnosis with multiple myeloma, my Valentine’s sweet service intensified. I’ve read about spouses who abandon their mates when severe illness invades their story. Not my Bob. His love just dug in harder.

Bob has served me far beyond the call of duty. Let me rephrase that. My Prince Charming’s love surpasses the responsibilities of our wedding vows.

Take 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Seriously!

I grieve when people take matters of love and marriage lightly, and especially when older marriages crumble under heavy trials. When Bob and I vowed “in sickness and health, until death do us part,” we meant it. We didn’t understand what might be required of us, but we embraced our vows and never looked back.

One thing that cultivated our commitment was 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 and the messages we’ve heard about it many times since.

The passage is part of what some call “The Love Chapter.” The verses suggest how indispensable love is in the Christian experience. Bob and I take those verses seriously. We don’t practice this love perfectly, but it is our worthy goal.

God’s says love is patient and kind—it doesn’t give up on the one we love. It’s not envious, boasting, or proud. It does not dishonor others by forcing itself on them. It isn’t self-seeking—not a “me first” mentality. It’s not easily angered. Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs—forgiveness flows freely. Love doesn’t delight in evil, but instead, takes pleasure in the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres. Finally, love never fails, never dies.

I know that I am terminal. We all are. But I also know God will give my husband and me continuing “1 Corinthians love” until God calls one of us home. Even then, the love we have shared will serve—lingering in the survivor’s memory to encourage and help.

How grateful I am for my sweet, serving Valentine! He surely has been God’s good gift to me.

A few questions:

  • If you are married, are you cultivating 1 Corinthians 13 love with your Valentine?
  • If you are single, are you demonstrating 1 Corinthians 13 love with your brothers and sisters in Christ?

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Bio:

Dawn Wilson is a speaker and author, and a regular columnist at Crosswalk.com.

Thank you, Dawn!

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28 Comments

28 Comments

  1. Nancy E. Head

    You truly found a keeper. True love goes deep. God bless!

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    • Debbie W. Wilson

      Thanks, Nancy. What a sweet testimony of real love.

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    • Dawn Wilson

      Thank you, Nancy. Yes, a true keeper.

      Reply
  2. J.D. Wininger

    OMGoodness. What a sweet post. I’m gonna need an extra shot of insulin. Isn’t it amazing how God’s love shows through His children. The more we love Him, the more His love shines through us. Happy upcoming Anniversary Mr. Bob and Ms. Dawn. God’s blessings.

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    • Debbie W. Wilson

      You made me chuckle, J.D. Sweet indeed.

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    • Dawn Wilson

      J.D., you made me LOL! Thank you for the Anniversary Blessing.

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  3. Deborah Rutherford

    I so enjoyed your sweet post about your husband and love. My husband is this way too and I feel so blessed.

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    • Debbie W. Wilson

      A true blessing to experience godly love. Thanks, Deborah.

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    • Dawn Wilson

      Thank you, Deborah. God sure knew what He was doing when He introduced me to Bob!

      Reply
  4. Lois Flowers

    Dawn, yours is a beautiful love story! Thanks so much for sharing, Debbie. And Happy Valentine’s Day to you both. 🙂

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    • Dawn Wilson

      Thank you! May you share God’s love with many tomorrow.

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  5. Michele Morin

    Beautiful! So often we take our dearest ones for granted! But not you!

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    • Debbie W. Wilson

      Good observation. Thanks, Michele!

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    • Dawn Wilson

      After I was diagnosed with MM, I learned not to take ANYone for granted—especially my hubby.

      Reply
  6. Linda Stoll

    Happy Valentine’s Day, Debbie & Dawn!

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    • Dawn Wilson

      Thank you, Linda!

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    • Debbie W. Wilson

      Thank you, and the same to you, Linda.

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  7. Ann J Musico

    This was beautiful and a realistic picture of what real, lasting love looks like. My husband and I celebrated 40 years last July and I feel very blessed to have him.

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    • Dawn Wilson

      Thank you, Ann. Marriages that last as long as ours are a true witness to the world these days.

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    • Debbie W. Wilson

      That’s wonderful Ann. We are blessed indeed.

      Reply
  8. Annie Yorty

    Dawn, your marriage is a testimony of God’s faithfulness that encourages me. I especially like this line: “Even then, the love we have shared will serve—lingering in the survivor’s memory to encourage and help.” That type of love truly does go on forever both here on earth and into eternity. Blessings to you!

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    • Debbie W. Wilson

      Annie, that struck me too. “The greatest of these is love.”

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  9. Dawn Wilson

    Thank you, Annie. God’s faithfulness has helped us be faithful to one another. Christians won’t have the same relationships (marriage) in heaven, but I think we will still likely smile with love at our earthly partners.

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  10. Barbara Latta

    Thanks for sharing this beautiful example of servanthood.

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    • Debbie Wilson

      I appreciated Dawn’s story too. Thanks, Barbara.

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  11. Joanne Viola

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful love story, Dawn. We truly need to hear more of these stories. I hope both of you lovely ladies had a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

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    • Debbie Wilson

      I hope you had a special Valentine’s Day too, Joanne!

      Reply

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