Meanness: unkindness, unfairness, spitefulness, aggressive character. — Webster’s Dictionary

Mean people cause great harm. How do we keep their actions from ruining our relationships with God, others, and ourselves?

Don’t Take Responsibility for the Actions of Mean People

When the perpetrator blames us for their actions, we may question ourselves and bend over backwards to appease them and stop the attacks. We take responsibility for actions we don’t control.

A family member falsely accused and characterized me of being disrespectful, so I tried harder to prove my character. I soon realized my conduct wasn’t the issue. They had a heart problem.

Train My Mind with Truth

Ephesians 6 says we battle not against flesh and blood…but against spiritual forces. God has provided Christians with weapons of divine power which include truth (2 Cor 10:3-5). Young David knew God was His companion and that Goliath was no match for Him.

When someone mistreats me, I can question myself. Do I deserve this? Self-criticism can lead to self-destructive behavior. For example, a mean-spirited parent can raise a child who believes he doesn’t deserve quality relationships. Knowing the truth of how God sees me protects me from the lies of my spiritual enemy. Knowing God’s Word lights my path (Psalm 119:105).

Go to RefreshingFaith.com for resources on how to deal with self-critical thoughts and resist manipulation. If we can help you with a personal relationship challenge, please contact us. You are important.

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Blessings,

Update

• Larry’s recovery is going well after a large blood clot removal. To learn how God saved him, read: A Psalm 139 Miracle
• Debbie’s new book on forgiveness has been submitted to the publisher. Pray for quality production.
• Couples are experiencing new intimacy. Pray for the continuation of healthy habits.
• Parents who are suffering because their adult children have rejected them. Pray for their comfort and wisdom.