Today, Larry offers a way to improve our communication with those whom we’ve struggled to connect.
“Let no unwholesome word come out of your mouth, but if there is any good word for edification according to the need of the moment, say that so that it will give grace to those who hear” (Ephesians 4:29 NASB).
Is there someone in your life who is struggling or with whom you struggle? Perhaps an often-overlooked type of communication will help. How about a conversation with the intention to build them up? Words that lift one’s spirit and faith can help you and them rise above the struggles.
Building the person takes priority. The goal of building conversations isn’t to flatter, impress, or win. It’s to build. This higher goal affects what we say and don’t say. The Bible reveals our words come from our heart and a heart in the right place births the best conversations.
Building the person takes discernment. Proverbs 25:11 (NASB) says, “Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken at the proper time.”
A person’s true needs may not be obvious. Listening and tuning in with the person and God provides discernment to choose the right words at the right time (Proverbs 16:21).
Recently, an angry husband reluctantly came from another town with his wife for marriage counseling. Having been disrespected by his in-laws, he verbally attacked these relatives. His relationship with his wife hung by a thread. He knew God, but he wasn’t going to be disrespected.
I mentioned I saw in him a tender spirit and that he had legitimate anger. However, he needed to apologize for his unkind responses.
I didn’t expect to see him again. However, he not only came back, but he had also apologized for his behavior.
Conversations that build others up make a difference. If we can help you with this or other relationship challenges, please let us know. You are important to us and those we help through your support. Debbie and I hope you and yours have a wonderful Christmas.
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