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“Life isn’t fair or just or kind, so we shouldn’t be surprised by injustice, suffering, or pain (Eccles. 8:14).” Steven James, Flirting with the Forbidden

The holidays rush in with expectations of how our house should look, people should act, and life should be. Why is this mindset dangerous? Because attaining a perfect life without setbacks isn’t biblical. Life under the sun isn’t fair or just. It rarely meets our expectations of how things should be.

Realistic Expectations

An enlightened worldview says difficulties are normal and necessary for our personal and spiritual growth. Knowing God is in control and uses these big and small battles for our good changes how we face disappointment. Instead of being discouraged because life sometimes stinks, we shift our hope off our circumstances and onto the God of hope. (Emphasis added below.)

  • “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own” (Matthew 6:34 NIV).
  • “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33 NIV).
  • “We must go through many hardships to enter the kingdom of God” (Acts 14:22 NIV).
  • Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything” (James 1:2-4 NIV).
  • “Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you” (1 Peter 4:12 NIV).

If someone said, “I’ve seen your future. Expect trouble every day,” I’d worry. “What kind of trouble? How big? How painful?” I would focus on the future and miss the pleasures of each day. But Jesus has warned us to protect us from this response.

The Best Expectation

Knowing daily obstacles and irritations are a normal part of life can help us face them with hope. God has not abandoned us. He is with us and for us.

“And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age” (Matthew 28:20 NIV).

Surely your goodness and love will follow me
    all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
    forever” (Psalm 23:6 NIV).

Closing Prayer:

Dear Father, I’ve looked for peace in circumstances. I’ve believed that if I could change my circumstances or others then I would have peace. Grant me the grace to let go of my worries and see Your goodness today. 

Learn more about expectations in Give Yourself a Break.

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  1. Linda Stoll

    Ah, I’m long done with expecting life to be fair, Debbie. There’s so much I’ll never understand. But I have learned to fully lean into the character of God, His faithfulness, love, and justice. All is in His hands. And there’s nowhere else I’d rather be.

    • Debbie W. Wilson

      Linda, good for you! We waste a lot of pain expecting earth to be like heaven.

  2. J.D. Wininger

    Apologies for my delay in getting to your post. The giveaway is closed, but the treasure was found in your words Ms. Debbie. We humans, as flawed and imperfect as we’ll remain this side of our coming glorification, can get so discouraged by the disappointments and challenges we face each day. I love how you encouraged our spiritual selves to remember that the difference between saint and sinner is this world is how we handle these daily challenges. It’s when we seek God’s grace and deal with them with the recognition that they are a momentary affliction that we show God’s presence and power in our lives. It is this that moves others to seek what we’ve found. I find myself often thinking of what comes beyond the Day. Like in chess strategy, I employ end-game thinking, realizing that how I get to my end goal, which is God’s goal for me, is what’s important. God’s blessings dear sister-in-Christ, and thank you for your encouraging post.

    • Debbie W. Wilson

      J.D., I like your statement, ” I employ end-game thinking, realizing that how I get to my end goal, which is God’s goal for me, is what’s important.” Amen!

  3. Yvonne Morgan

    Life is not fair in human standards but God do provide for all His children equally and I hold onto that thought when I struggle. Thanks for your encouragement Debbie.

    • Debbie W. Wilson

      Yvonne, some of God’s best saints had hard lives. I think of OT Joseph and even Mary, the mother of Jesus. Yet, they played important roles in God’s big story and still enjoy the rewards in heaven.

  4. Cathy Chung

    So true. If someone warned us that we’d suffer, we’d focus on the unknown with dread. But Jesus did warn us and told us to focus on Him. Love it.

    • Debbie W. Wilson

      Cathy, what a comfort to know He’s got us covered! Thanks so much.

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