Before we look at how to stop negative self-talk, let me describe my battle with it.
Years ago, a knowledgeable guide delighted our group of moms and kids on a fieldtrip to a local historical site. But I sensed her emptiness and wanted to talk to her about the Lord. My conversation didn’t go as I’d hoped.
Accusations pelted me as I drove away. Why did you say that? You really botched an opportunity. You’re a poor excuse for a Christian.
Before we talk about how to stop negative self-talk, let me describe my battle with it. #RefreshingFaith, #hope Click To Tweet
That wasn’t the first time I’d felt those accusations. Negative thoughts and feelings seemed to pounce whenever I wanted to share my faith or after small group Bible study. “You talked too much,” they jeered. At the time I didn’t understand these attacks. Now I recognize them for what they are—spiritual warfare.
The Bible says, “Our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against…the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms” (Ephes. 6:12 NIV).
We have an enemy who doesn’t want people to know the truth about God. He tries to stop us from growing closer to God and telling others about Jesus. Understanding this equips us to recognize and resist his attacks (1 Pet. 5:8-9).
The Apostle Paul wrote, “We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Cor. 10:3-5 NIV). Use the following filters to protect your thoughts.
1. Stop negative self-talk with truth.
Those trained to identify counterfeit money study real money. The better we know the truth the quicker we discern lies. God’s Word is truth.
Notice the difference between what Satan said to Jesus and what the Father said about Jesus.
Satan: “If you are the Son of God…”
The Father: “This is my dearly loved Son.”
Do you know what the Father says about you? Do you know the truth of how He sees you? Know the truth and you’ll recognize the lies.The better we know the truth the quicker we discern lies. God’s Word is #truth. #WordofGod Click To Tweet
2. Stop negative self-talk by listening to your Shepherd.
It’s not enough to know what the Bible says. We must also know the Author and His character.
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me” (Jn. 10:27 NIV).
Satan knows the Bible better than we do. He quoted Psalm 91 to tempt Jesus (Matt. 4:6). But Jesus successfully resisted the devil because He knew Scripture was never intended to tempt, harm, or condemn God’s children. God’s word corrects, comforts, instructs, and strengthens us.
The sum of Your word is truth” (Ps. 119:160 NASB).
The better we know Jesus, the quicker we discern the source of our thoughts and stop our enemy.
We must filter every thought. We must take captive every idea that argues against the truth and doesn’t reflect our Shepherd. Now that I know the source of those accusations, instead of listening to them, I refute them (Is. 54:17). You can too!
Give Yourself a Break Online Small Group Study for Women
Do you need help recognizing your Shepherd’s voice? Do anxious or condemning thoughts darken your mind? Join me on Tuesday evenings February 1 through April 12th as we go through Give Yourself a Break together. We’ll meet on zoom from 7 to 8:30 P.M EST. Space is limited.
Give Yourself a Break will help you experience God and find rest from ten common areas of struggle.
Give yourself a break from—
- Unrealistic Expectations
- Difficult People
- Renegade Thoughts
- Messy Emotions
- Spiritual Attacks
- The Pressure to Perform
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