Do you have trouble forgiving yourself? My husband Larry talks about how to forgive yourself and shows why it is important. Here’s Larry.
We’ve heard, forgiveness is divine. Forgiveness removes the burden of guilt and relieves the hurt from being wronged. Yet, I find many overlook a type of forgiveness which is essential—the choice to forgive ourselves.
A young man who battled a sexual addiction told me he carried shame from what he’d done and who he’d become. He believed God had forgiven him, yet he hadn’t forgiven himself. Because of this, he carried his past with him which weakened him in his battle against current temptations (Heb. 12:1-2).Forgiveness removes guilt and relieves the hurt from being wronged. Yet, many of us overlook the choice to #forgive ourselves. #RefreshingFaith Click To Tweet
How can we forgive ourselves and expunge our regrets?
- Get God’s Forgiveness. When I confess my wrong to God and decide to do differently, I experience God’s complete forgiveness (1 Jn. 1:9). Forgiveness from God gives me a new start and the capacity and authority to forgive others including myself. I can’t pass on what I haven’t received.
- Give Yourself Forgiveness. I know people who call themselves stupid. Whether out loud or internally, what we tell ourselves makes a difference (2 Cor. 10:5). We need to tell ourselves biblical truth which builds us up and brings us closer to God (Eph. 3:29, 4:15, 16).
One day, memories of a personal regret taunted me. I’d confessed it all in the past to God. I knew He forgave me, yet unwelcome memories returned. I felt prompted to say, “Larry, I forgive you for that incident.”
Something unusual happened. Lightness filled me, and now I’ve even forgotten what the incident was. I forgave myself as God forgave me. (Col. 3:13, Jn. 20:23). Recently, the man who’d carried shame told me he’d forgiven himself. He was delighted and surprised to find the pull to sin dissipated when he did.
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