How to Provide the Best Help

by | Aug 20, 2019 | Life skills | 10 comments

What’s the best way to help those in rough places? How do we show support and be in sync with God’s purpose? While each situation and person vary, I’ve found two qualities that promote wise help for all.

Personal Peace

Before Jesus sent the disciples out to rescue others, He gave them personal peace (Jn 20:19, 21). When I have a calm spirit, I’m not moved by pressure, guilt, or my own agenda. I’m able to respond to a dilemma with a sound mind (1 Jn 4:7-12, 19; Lk 10:33)

Proper Aim

The best assistance helps a person become better. Some are in tough places through no fault of their own. They may be honorable people. But our Father is in the process of making His family better (Rom 8:28-30).

Some people want relief from a trial more than they want maturity. Since we want to be in sync with God, we need His wisdom (Jas 1:2-4). We seek Him and trust Him to orchestrate our efforts to accomplish His best.

I asked a man, who’d lost his family because of his own sin, how I could help him. “I want to become a better person, whether or not my family comes back to me,” he said.

He’s in a good place to receive the right help.

If we can help you or someone you know with personal relationship or faith challenges, please let us know. You are important to Father God and to us.

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  1. J.D. Wininger

    Amen! ” But seek ye first the kingdom of God…” (Matt. 6:33). What a great post. Is Mr. Larry related? Too many times in life I, and others who also want to help someone, prescribe to the “Ready, Fire, Aim” approach. What a great reminder that we need to improve our aim by seeking God’s guidance and understanding before we act.

    • Debbie Wilson

      I’ve done that too, J.D. Yes, Larry is my wonderful husband!

  2. Sue Turner

    Hi Larry!
    We want to invite you and Debbie to our Cottage in WILMINGTON. We have missed seeing you! Please call me.
    Love in Christ,
    Sue and George Turner

    • Debbie Wilson

      Thank you, Sue! Blessings to you both.

  3. Ann Musico

    Beautiful and important insights!

    • Debbie Wilson

      Thank you, Ann.

  4. Ann Johnson

    This is SUCH good advice. I intend to pass it on to our altar ministry and Healing Rooms prayer team.

    God’s blessings to you, my brother.

    Ann Johnson

    • Debbie Wilson

      Thank you, Ann. Blessings to you and Sam.

  5. Julie Lavender

    Thank you for the post, Debbie. This line especially caught my attention: “We seek Him and trust Him to orchestrate our efforts to accomplish His best.”

    • Debbie Wilson

      Thank you, Julie.

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