“My husband doesn’t show me love,” the distraught woman before me complained. Her husband was a good provider, maintained her car without being asked, vacuumed the house, and cleaned up after supper. But acts of service were not her love language. Because she longed for quality time this woman didn’t recognize her husband’s actions as demonstrations of love.
A hunger to express and experience love runs through the human DNA. Considering this made me wonder if that need extends to our relationship with God. If so, what are some ways to enhance this love relationship? Does God have a love language?
Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate captivated millions of readers. Hebrews 11:6 shows faith is God’s love language.
And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him” (NIV).
Did you catch the reciprocal nature of faith as described in this verse? Those who believe in God also believe God rewards them for seeking Him.
Loving Jesus enables us to receive His love. John 14:21 says, “Those who love me will have my Father’s love, and I, too, will love them and show myself to them” (GW).
Let’s look at ways to enhance our love relationship with God.
5 Ways to Speak God’s Love Language
Prayer demonstrates a relationship with God and faith that He is good.
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened..
Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” (Matt. 7:7-11 NIV).
Gratitude demonstrates faith in God’s goodness and sovereignty. It shows I believe He is bigger than my mistakes and the wrongs I’ve endured (Rom. 8:28). Faith allows me to pray with thanksgiving before I see the answer (Phil. 4:6-8).
Whatever happens, give thanks, because it is God’s will in Christ Jesus that you do this” (1 Thes. 5:18 GW).
A large ministry fired an honorable young man without cause. His mother wrestled with God over this betrayal. Before the year was out, a scandal hit the press concerning those who’d mistreated her son. “God spared my son,” she said. “And I’d thought He’d forgotten him.”
Worship shows we believe He is worthy of our devotion and reminds us He’s bigger and higher than anything else clamoring for our time and attention.
Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything” (Ps. 46:10 The Message).
Obedience demonstrates the authenticity of our love and faith (Heb. 3:18-19).
Whoever knows and obeys my commandments is the person who loves me” (Jn. 14:21 GW).
If you love me, you will obey my commandments. I will ask the Father, and he will give you another helper who will be with you forever” (Jn. 14:15-16 GW).
In fact, this is love for God: to keep his commands. And his commands are not burdensome” (1 Jn. 5:3 NIV).
I tell you, her sins—and they are many—have been forgiven, so she has shown me much love. But a person who is forgiven little shows only little love” (Luke 7:47 NLT).
Faith is the love language through which we express love to God and experience love from Him.
- Faith in God’s grace helps us get up after we’ve failed.
- Faith in God’s promises motivates us to persevere in hope when everything we see shouts “Give up.”
And every time we get up, take a step, or be still from faith, God’s heart sings! Does your relationship with God need a boost? Consider the list above. Which one needs your attention?