“I had nightmares for decades”
“I’m turning 71 and still have them.”
Loss and betrayal cut deep at any age, but especially when those losses occurred when you were young and powerless. What if the way out of your pain is walking through it with God?
I believe one of the biggest misconceptions about forgiveness is that if you forgive, you won’t hurt anymore. That wasn’t true for me. I read Christian articles and tried to forgive the best I could, but my tormenter’s continued coldness and lies about my sister and me still hurt.
Many of my clients experienced the same ongoing pain. They forgave, but some wrongs continued to hurt.
Forgiveness sets us free to heal, but healing may take time.
Years of counseling women coupled with my own experience prompted me to write Big Hurt, Bigger God: Finding Freedom Through Biblical Forgiveness. I wanted to provide a resource to help people process their pain, losses, and injustices with God so that they could be free to experience healing and transformation.
Big Hurt, Bigger God officially releases September 1, 2026
This book offers practical steps to help you walk through your pain with God, experience His presence, and grow through the process.
Would You Like to Help?
Much of launching a book now falls on the author. I love to learn and share, but I’m not much of a marketer! I believe word of mouth is one of the best ways to pass good information along.
If Big Hurt, Bigger God resonates with you, here are a few ways you can help get the word out:
- Buy a book. Every purchase helps get this message into another person’s hands.
- Recommend it to a friend. You never know who may be quietly carrying an old wound.
- Share it on social media. Sharing this post or the book announcement is an easy way to help others discover the book.
- Leave an honest review. Reviews on Amazon, Goodreads, and your favorite book seller’s site help readers know whether a book might be right for them. You can copy and paste the same review on multiple sites.
- Invite me to speak. I’d love to talk with your women’s group, church, Bible study, or other group about biblical forgiveness. I’m available to speak on Zoom or in person.
You may have other ideas, too. I’m grateful for every person who helps spread this message.
Want to Hear More?
I recently had the opportunity to talk with Bob Crittenden on Faith Radio about Big Hurt, Bigger God—why I wrote the book and why forgiveness doesn’t always mean the pain disappears. Listen to the interview below.
Some wounds take longer to heal than we wish. But we don’t have to walk through them alone.
Our hurts may be big, but God is bigger.
Our hurts may be big, but God is bigger. #BigHurtBiggerGod, #Healing Share on XCelebrating a Big God,
Sometimes I link to these great sites:
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I have no doubt your book will help many people process their trauma and pain and allow God’s healing touch in their lives.
Thank you, Ann. That is my prayer.
This is a much needed resource in our world today. Thanks for sharing God’s remedy for our wounds.
Thank you, Barbara. I agree, there are a lot of big hurts in our world today.
Another great post Ms. Debbie. I can look back upon my life and see many hurts of the past. These hurts caused me bitterness, anger, and kept me from a closer walk with God. It was when He taught me to fully forgive and let Him take all my pain and anguish that I began walking in true freedom. As you note, He might take our burdens but He doesn’t wipe those hurts from our memory. I think He wants us to remember so that we don’t repeat or cause the same in others. God’s blessings to you and Mr. Larry ma’am.
Good insight, J.D. I think they help us have compassion on others who hurting too.
Processing hurt and losses is complex, isn’t it? Thank you for being a faithful servant and writing your book to help others heal their hurts. I’ll be keeping it in mind to share on to others.
Thanks, Lynn. I want it to be tool to help people be transformed by offering a tool to help them process their pain with the Lord.